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Aug 23 2022

The Process of Creating What You Want in Life

I want to share a powerful secret with you today, one that can help you reach your goals and create the life you want for yourself.

I used to wonder why some people seem to get what they want, while others – including myself – always seemed to run in place. Weren’t we just as deserving, creative, and hard-working?

I finally spoke with a few friends who had done it to learn what I was missing. And here’s the secret they shared.

Getting what you want isn’t about just deserving it or working hard or having passion.

It’s about knowing the right process. It’s about making the right choices and sticking with a plan.

Suddenly, it clicked for me. I hadn’t yet decided what I really wanted. I kinda knew, kinda hoped, kinda thought… but it wasn’t until I explored my values, desires and abilities enough to make a beacon-like choice that I could start on my way to building the life I wanted.

So, I want you to start at that same point. Take the time to decide what you really want. Is it to be healthy and active? Do you aim to be a loving partner? Do you yearn to build a business or nurture a talent?

Maybe you already know. Maybe it will take some thought and research to make your decision.

But once you do that, here’s the next step – according to the folks I consulted and the experts out there. You’ve got to develop the mindset that nothing will stop you – knowing that countless events and circumstances and even people will try to trip you up. Expect it! Plan for it! That’s how you beat it!

Now you have the goal and you have the determination. So, next, sketch out your path. What will you need on the way? How will you get it? Who can help?

Next comes The Big Step. You must TAKE ACTION. All the planning and reflecting in the world don’t amount to anything if you don’t do the work, one step at a time, day after day.

I understand how you might feel. It’s hard to build the life you want for yourself, to eat right, exercise, and pursue your other goals. It’s hard just deciding what you want and how to start.

But it’s NOT mysterious. Follow this process, do the work, and love yourself enough to stick with it over time.

I promise it works, and I can’t wait for it to blossom for you like it has for me and so many others.

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Aug 22 2022

Why You Must Dream Your ‘Impossible’ Dream

When you decide to proactively show your body some love and take care of it, you’re challenging yourself in wonderful ways that will have profound benefits across your life.

You start learning step by step that you really can do difficult things, make important changes, and gett the results you want. It’s a powerful experience! So, let’s build on it with something new – a different kind of challenge that BY DEFINITION is going to seem impossible at first.

You ready?

I want you to challenge yourself to do something you believe you can’t do. Go ahead and start thinking of things. Maybe you want to run your first marathon, correct those nagging pains in your body, or learn a new language or musical instrument. Doesn’t matter – it’s up to you. (Just keep it to things within your control; winning the lottery doesn’t count!)

Whatever you choose, the point is to stretch yourself and to think big, and GROW INTO your desires. The process will reveal more about your abilities and values so you can strengthen positive attitudes, accomplish more, and repeat victories in other endeavors.

This is all true even if you modify your original target. The process reveals so much on its own. As we’ve all heard, success is the journey, not the destination.

You deserve that success, that trip! So, learn to celebrate the little victories… to accept your disappointments… to make adjustments along the way…

Think big and scary. Then make a plan and enlist support. Get started and keep your eyes wide open.

You can’t lose.

What are you going to shoot for? Let me know in the comments.

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Aug 20 2022

Breaking The Chains Of A Bad Habit

The skinny of bad habits

Building healthy new habits is so important to maintaining a healthy lifestyle and reaching your goals. But let’s talk today about the reverse: How to break a bad habit, whether it’s a mild annoyance or a serious health risk. Research is clear that you can do it. Take these power steps to rise above.

Know your triggers. Traffic? Mother-in-law? TV news?

Plan an alternative action when they strike. Gum instead of a cigarette… Meditation instead of drinking…

Tell a friend what you’re doing. We all need encouragement.

Get further support from a doctor, therapist or 12-step group if necessary.

Vividly imagine how you’ll feel if you commit the bad habit. Play the tape of the last million times you did it… you know how this story goes!

Keep up all your good habits – and even pick up a new one to draw your focus. Stack the new one onto a positive daily step you already take so that you associate them together without even thinking.

Reward yourself. Did you go, say, a week without biting your nails? Take yourself out for a healthy smoothie.

Look, I get it. Life is stressful, and we use little tricks to help us deal with stress or to bring us a moment’s pleasure, to build us up when other people (or our little demons) are knocking us down. It’s only natural – so don’t make it worse by beating yourself up! Instead, take positive action now.

Joining a healthy community, such as a gym or studio, is super-helpful. And you don’t have to wait until you triumph over your bad habits to start exercising, eating right, and enjoying positive friendships.

I believe we can create new habits that then give us added power and inspiration over those persistent negative behaviors, too. Fight the negative with the positive. It works every time!

Do you know what triggers you? Are you working on it? Let me know in the comments.

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Aug 18 2022

Be Your Own BFF

Everyone wants friends who will always be there for us. And we all hope to BE that kind of friend for others.

But can you do it for yourself?

Are you “there” for yourself like you are for others?

Even after you commit to healthy habits, sometimes things start to feel hard ,and you might want to give up.

Instead, remember these steps to support yourself every day…

Commit to yourself — in writing – about consistently applying your best efforts toward a goal or new habit.
Stop insulting yourself. A little self-deprecating humor can be charming. But don’t undercut your talents or ambitions. Not to others, and not to yourself.
Forgive yourself. We all make mistakes, so learn what you can, try to not do it again – and move on. Isn’t that what you’d say to a friend? So why not say it to yourself?
Set boundaries with others. When we’re always trying to please people by accepting every request, we diminish our time and resources. Saying “no” isn’t selfish; it’s empowering.
Practice daily affirmations to celebrate little successes and keep your perspective in the face of challenges.

Finally, if all else fails, remember what flight attendants tell passengers at the start of every flight. If those air masks drop, get yours on right first before trying to help anybody else.

If you can’t support yourself, how can you be there for anyone else?

P.S Having a good support system means that you are looked out for body, mind, and soul. You want to have a good relationship with the person or people helping you, but do be fooled that you are getting the program you need just because you are friends. Get into a program that focuses on the areas of your body other programs miss and a support system that cares for you and holds you to your goals. Use this link https://calendly.com/ekemba_solcorefitness/ica-interview to book a free consult and learn more. https://calendly.com/ekemba_solcorefitness/ica-interview

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Aug 16 2022

This concept can change your life

We’ve all heard about “passing the buck,” an expression that means a reluctance to accept responsibility. It’s often used to describe dysfunctional organizations, but it’s helpful when talking about our individual health, too.

I know people who take this as their daily approach to life. Nothing is ever their responsibility because they’re always trying to dodge blame.

“It’s not my fault I can’t lose the weight – it’s my genetics.”

“My body is different and can’t move that way .”

“It’s too late for me, I’m old, and my body is beaten up?”

Well, let’s forget about “blame” for just a moment, OK? It never creates anything helpful.

Let’s talk about “responsibility,” instead – particularly taking responsibility for ourselves. It’s necessary if we hope to begin prioritizing our efforts, acting in line with our values, and avoiding the same mistakes over and over again.

Practice these powerful, no-nonsense steps every day.

Resist blaming others. Instead, when delays or problems come up, think about your own actions and what you might do differently next time.

Stop complaining constantly. Look for the positive aspect of a situation and try to learn something from it.

Remember to stay present every day. Write in a journal, make gratitude lists, or meditate – whatever works to keep your blessings top of mind. It’ll keep you from regretting too much of the past and worrying about what’s to come.

Practice self-care. Try to eat right, exercise, get plenty of rest, and manage your stress.

Pursue clear goals. Write down your aims, along with steps to reach them. Throughout the day, look for opportunities to move the needle.

See “problems” as opportunities. Think creatively and positively when given a setback. What’s the best course of action that YOU can take now.

Accept that bad things happen. Difficulties occur. People let us down. This is just a part of life for literally everyone.

Look in the mirror. You are responsible for your own happiness. No one else is – not your boss or your partner or whoever it is that messed up traffic today. Just… YOU.

Play the role of CEO in your own life, and say it every day: “I’m responsible for everything in my life.”

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