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We’ve all heard the saying:
“Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results is insanity.”
We know it logically. But most people don’t feel it deep enough to change. And that lack of internal understanding sabotages their progress before it even starts.
Let’s talk about why this happens—and what you can do instead.
The Fear Wall That Stops Real Change
As a SomaTherapist and SomaTrainer, I’ve worked with people for decades to help them overcome pain and build stronger, more balanced bodies. But I can often tell early on who’s going to succeed and who’s going to give up.
Those who succeed?
They’re open. They might feel the same fear and discomfort, but they don’t shut down. They let the process unfold.
Those who don’t?
They put up walls. They fear being uncomfortable, not understanding everything right away, and not feeling “safe” in uncertainty. That fear hijacks their ability to learn, grow, and trust their bodies. And it keeps them stuck.
Discomfort Is Part of the Path
Growth requires stress. Not too much—but definitely not zero.
Whether you’re pursuing a career, healing your body, or learning something new, you’ll go through moments of frustration and uncertainty. That’s the cost of real transformation.
Take my own story:
When I first experienced this work, it was hard. I felt it in unfamiliar places, and it was uncomfortable. But I let the process reshape me—physically, emotionally, and mentally.
The discomfort of staying stuck was worse than the discomfort of moving forward.
Linear Systems vs. Holistic Growth
Most people are used to symptom-based approaches:
- Go to a chiropractor for your back
- Go to a PT for your shoulder
- Try a personal trainer for strength
But the body doesn’t work in isolated parts. It functions holistically.
When I start working with clients using a true osteopathic model, it surprises them. We’re not just addressing the painful spot—they begin moving and strengthening parts of their body they didn’t even know were involved. Tight, dry, and weak areas get activated. And yes—it feels foreign and uncomfortable.
But that discomfort is the signal that change is happening.
If You Don’t Let the Process Change You…
You’ll quit.
And quitting—even if it feels good in the moment—leads to a cycle of:
- Relief from stress
- Rationalization (“I know what’s best for my body”)
- Disappointment when things don’t improve
- A lowered threshold for quitting again
Eventually, quitting becomes part of your identity. And that’s a heavy burden to carry.
Your Identity Can Grow—If You Let It
You are more capable than you think. You’re more you than you realize. But that expanded version of you only emerges when you step into stress, growth, and challenge.
When you allow the process to change you—not just physically, but mentally and emotionally—something powerful happens:
- You break the cycle.
- You become more grounded in your body.
- You expand your capacity as a human being.
Final Thought: Life Is Here to Help You Grow
As author Echeart Tolle said:
“Life isn’t here to make you comfortable. It’s here to help you grow.”
Growth comes from allowing, not controlling. From openness, not certainty. The process may not always feel easy—but the rewards are real and lasting.
Your turn: Have you gone through a process that challenged and changed you?
Leave a comment and let me know—I’d love to hear your story.
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